As a highly trained perfectionist—thanks to music school and my own upbringing—I know firsthand how easy it is to let criticism get in the way of making music and enjoying the process. Perfectionism can creep in at any stage of your musical journey: while learning your instrument or voice, creating new music, or reflecting on a past performance. The tips below will help you overcome perfectionism no matter where you are in your musical growth. Let’s get started!
1. Focus on What You Feel, Not What You Hear
Have you ever sung or played through an excerpt and thought, “I really flubbed that note”? Good news: you’re human! One wrong note doesn’t define your abilities as a musician. In fact, your ears often aren’t as trustworthy as you think.
Here’s how to shift your focus:
- Record and review: Sometimes a “mistake” isn’t even noticeable when you listen back. Use recordings to gain perspective.
- Tune into your body: For singers, pay attention to where the sound resonates. Are you taking low, deep breaths? Is your core engaged? For instrumentalists, focus on muscle memory—how your fingers feel against strings or keys—and lean into dynamics to shape phrases.
- Stay present: Practice staying grounded in the moment by connecting with your body and letting go of overcritical thoughts. Learn more about how to stay grounded in our blog on mindful practice for musicians.
2. Meet Yourself Where You Are Each Day
Our bodies and minds change daily, influenced by factors like sleep, hydration, and stress. Instead of fighting against those changes, embrace them and adjust your approach accordingly.
Tips for adapting to your daily state:
- Acknowledge your limits: If you’re tired, focus on emotional connection or lyrical analysis rather than physically demanding exercises.
- Modify your goals: Struggling with high notes? Strengthen your lower register instead. If your hands are cramping, slow down challenging passages or shift to music theory work.
- Practice mindfulness: Use breath work or relaxation techniques to connect with your body and reduce frustration.
When you meet yourself with patience and flexibility, you set the stage for progress—without unnecessary pressure.
3. Prioritize Expression Over Perfection
Music is a form of expression, not a test of technical perfection. Think about the performances that have moved you the most. Chances are, it wasn’t flawless technique that stood out, but the raw emotion and connection of the performer.
Ways to focus on expression:
- Imitate your idols: Choose a favorite performer and exaggerate their style. Let yourself go over the top—you might unlock unexpected artistry.
- Embrace imperfections: Vocal cracks, missed notes, or minor flaws can add authenticity to your performance.
- Reconnect with the message: Focus on communicating the story or emotion of the piece rather than achieving technical perfection.
By prioritizing expression, you’ll connect more deeply with your audience—and with your own love of music.
Conclusion: Striving for perfection may feel like a way to validate your worth as a musician, but it’s not the only path to success. By focusing on what you feel, meeting yourself where you are, and prioritizing expression, you’ll create authentic, meaningful music that resonates with others.
Ready to embrace imperfection and grow as a musician? Book a voice or instrumental lesson today and start making progress—on your own terms!
You got this!
Dana